“You can either be a host to God or a hostage to your ego.”
– Dr. Wayne Dyer
The ego is not all bad. It’s the ribbon that holds us together through the continuum of time and our experiences. Yet it can also hold us back from recognizing our one-ness with others. It gives us a false sense of separation and that can cause anxiety, stress and loneliness. Learning to detach from our ego and our experiences allows us to see our selves moving up the karmic wheel vertically in the eternal moment of now instead of transgressing in a linear fashion. We are blooming rather than plodding forward and all that we are and will become is already in us. Drinking is a way of avoiding suffering – for me, stress, boredom, anxiety, frustration – and yet, like that children’s book, “We’re Going on a Bear Hunt,” you can’t go around it and you can’t go under it, you have to go through it. Avoiding our negative emotions means we can’t resolve them, learn from them, grow from them, and thus we keep repeating the same karmic patterns, the same neural networks, over and over and over. By not drinking, I have had to unload some pretty heavy karma, and it takes time. But now, instead of going around and around, I can finally go through it. Sometimes our biggest trials become our biggest triumphs. Avoidance robs us of this opportunity. Life imitates art imitates life. We are like actors in a film. We agreed to play our roles before we entered the scene. We are victim, aggressor, mother, son, lover, enemy, teacher, student. We put on our roles like custom-fitted costumes and play them out on the stage of free will. We can even change our roles if we have successfully learned the lessons we needed from them and change potentialities, adopt new roles and plot lines.